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“Letting go means to come to the realization that 

some people are a part of your history, 

but not a part of your destiny.” 

― Steve Maraboli

This quote always resonates with me.  We all have people who have been in our lives, and we know that there comes a time when the path we're on doesn't go in the same direction as others in our lives, and we need to let go.  Sometimes, that's not an easy thing to do!  But in order to move ahead, we can't hold on to those who hold us back.

That doesn't mean that you can't reconnect with them, to keep in touch from time to time.  That's what I did today -- I saw an old friend in a chat room and connected for just a bit, caught up on what's taking place in each others' lives.  I don't make connections with people that I meet very often.  Most of the time, you start a conversation with someone and it doesn't go anywhere.  Me, I prefer to have good conversations.  There are men I chat with who prefer to have conversations about certain body parts -- and most times I think "Grow UP!  that's what 15 year old boys think about, not real men!" Sometimes I'm even brave enough to say that to some.  *laughs*  I mean, its so boring for me to answer questions about boobs, or someone's libido.  At my age, I don't give a crap.  Capture me with some great thoughts, philosophical ideas, music we have in common, places we've been, sports -- its not hard to have a convo!  Or is that a dying art??

There are a select few, however, who can do the convos, impress me with thoughts or ideas, have something in common to keep the conversation going.  And that always, ALWAYS, captures my interest.  Those kind?  I call "old souls".   And that is the sort of man I'm attracted to!



Today's convo was reconnecting with a man in Sweden in his late 20s who is definitely an old soul.  He gets it, and when we sit down to chat, it goes on and on.  Too bad the time difference is so huge, makes it hard to find a time to connect!  He sounds happy, enjoyed his Holidays ... but best of all, after almost a year of no contact... he still remembered me!


I'm smiling .... all the way to dreamland tonight!

Thank You!!

One Thing Every Day

You need to do one thing every day.

When there are things that need to be done,
when you're hanging in limbo because of a situation, when you're doing more waiting than anything else,
you need to have a plan that gets you moving.

We are struggling with that today.  It is Monday, and there are things that need to happen, and yet there's nothing we can do but wait ... wait for phone calls, wait for something to happen, wait for someone else to make a decision.   I'm usually the one to make things happen, to make phone calls, to decide and act on something, anything.   But my Mom has been so dependent on my sister, and she is out of town for the weekend, so it's been nothing but waiting.  Needless to say, I don't wait very well. hahah

Dad's cremains are ready to be picked up.  But Mom wants to wait for my sister.
The service needs to be arranged at the cemetery.  But Mom wants to wait for my sister.
Someone will need to call the Pastor.  Yep.  Mom wants to wait for my sister.
I know that she's been depending on sis to get things done.
But that doesn't make it easier on me.

And if I was a different kind of person, I might be feeling some resentment.  Here I am away from my home and my job, my life is on hold, and I'm just sitting in limbo.  I've spent all of my vacation time here with my parents, I wouldn't change that a bit, but my sis has taken vacations that allow her to relax and all of mine this year have been changing one stress for another.  Not that I would change any of it, I've treasured every moment with my parents that I can get.   But at the same time, it's been an expensive way to spend vacation time, costly airline tickets, you get the idea.

No Regrets, however.
Just wishing that there was more to do than wait.
So far this visit, there has been something that needs doing every day.
Just waiting today.
The stress is creating havoc for me today.
Maybe I'll sneak off and grab a burger somewhere.