Accumulations!

Thats what I'm calling this stuff: accumulations.  I am at moms waiting for the bug spray guy and Im looking at all the stuff left behind. She can't take it all with her.  

She has one son, one daughter, one granddaughter and five grandsons.  Grandsons arent much interested in having grandmas stuff.  Theres not a lot I'm interested in, either. 

So a little overwhelming to speculate who is getting what.  Some of its obvious, trash or goodwill.  And I'm taking all the photos (genealogy is my thing!!) 

But mom was a collector. Major collector! There are two sets of China, fostoria crystal, two sets of silver eating utensils. And she never went with "eight is enough" . They are ALL sets of 12.  *eyeroll*  In the old days, you had china for special occasions and holidays. But these days, folks just don't do dinner parties like they used to.  So what do you do with this stuff??? 

Some china used to appreciate in value.  But it only happens when someone is willing to pay for it. These days, kids dont want "Gramma's old stuff".  Me??  I'll take any and all photos! Here's my folks, dressed for square dancing, early 80s. They loved it! 

An added side note, mom sewed all her dresses and matching neckties for dad! 

Do You Get Stuck?

I'm tired a lot, and I know I keep harping about it here.  My apologies!  

But Thursday, I woke up and I just couldn't seem to get myself motivated!  I layed in bed -- partly because the house was so cold! -- and just played games on my phone.  

So is that being lazy? Practical? Ambivalent? Or just hiding from the world?  Probably all of the above. 

Procrastination.  Yeah. That too.  

Getting up means getting on with the day, getting on with the tasks, and getting things done.  And my gut is so queasy, has been for weeks now.  Having to make decisions that affect mom's life .... UGH!  Because what I choose isn't always right in her eyes. Or maybe her negativity means there is always some portion that is criticized, even if its mostly the right decision.  

A typical example of mom's mentality. Weds she complained that the nurse gets her up at 7am.  Friday, she complained they didn't get her up until 8:10.   How can you keep a woman like that happy???  She finds fault with a lot. As I left, she said "i love you, girl." And I'm wondering if I should be offended..... am I reduced to being "girl"??

Trying to help her live her best life becomes impossible at times, and interferes with my best life.  There are no easy answers and at times I feel stuck.  I arrange my days as best I can to do what's best for everyone.

The holidays are going to be very different!