It's funny how blogging comes and goes for me. It's like there are times when I feel as if there is lots to be shared, and other times where there's nothing interesting in my life - rather, nothing interesting enough to share, perhaps. It's been an uneventful weekend, and purposefully I suppose because there are some days when I just don't want to make that call home.
I call my mom on a daily basis, just to check on her, see that things are going ok. Because it seems like there are some days when she doesn't have someone to talk to, and it gives us a reason to connect, even if we only compare weather patterns. lol This past week, however, was a little bit different.
My sis is going through so many things. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a year ago, and has been having the chemo treatments, etc. She's doing very well, and still leads a very active life. She's lucky that way! In my opinion, it's too active - she's always going off somewhere with her friends. I realize that at 55 years old, her kids are grown ups now, and she treats them that way. But no matter how grown up your kids are, they still need their parents in many ways. Especially Mom, but that's just my own opinion.
Her oldest son got into a bit of a situation, the girl he'd broken up with was pregnant, so they got back together to see if they could make a go of it. Seems that isn't going to be the way of things. You know, a baby doesn't make you agree on things if you didn't start off agreeing in the first place! But they tried. Now they're each looking to find a place to live. My sister had an idea to have this girl, her grandson and her youngest son get an apartment together. I can tell you, I was personally shocked. They're worlds apart in experience and maturity... of course there are other issues that would make this post way too wordy. Mom and I share the opinion that it isn't a good idea; Mom mentioned that to sis, and then let it go. No idea what's really going to happen.
But it got me thinking (yet again) about how we as people are. I remember being pregnant and going through that whole nesting thing. I suppose there's something like that when you're looking at the end of life as well? None of us know how long we have for the rest of our lives. Being given the "C" word would make it that more prominent than for other folks, I'm sure. I can't help wonder if sis is hitting that point where she feels the need to make sure all the i's are dotted, the t's crossed. I know I've felt that way when I've been a little panicky about my own life from time to time. (Mostly because in my mind I feel as if I'm still 40, then it hits me each time that I'm 58 already ... and my own i's and t's aren't all taken care of.)
I'm waffling over how to close this ... so many things come to mind.
Make a plan and stick to it.
Get really good advice from friends who's opinion you trust.
Hire a good lawyer.
Take care of what you can take care of in advance!
The future isn't always what we think it will be,
but we need to have some kind of plan in place.
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