Little steps are sometimes easier than one giant leap! When it comes to making decisions ... over the years, I've usually been pretty certain that I'm making the right move. When I decided that I needed to move to Arizona, the pieces fell into place as we moved through each phase of planning. When I wanted to purchase a home, again the pieces fell into place. Each time it was as if it was meant to be. I didn't have a whole lot of doubts and just forged ahead and it happened.
But this time, I have so many doubts and am uncertain which move is the right move. Frankly, I think the best move is for my mother to come live in AZ. It still means moving to a different house, but that would work for me. Especially if we moved closer to my daughter and family.
Me moving into my mother's house just ... I don't know, doesn't seem like it would work. I have a lot of stuff, but she has WAY more and is even more attached to things. Getting rid of stuff just isn't in her DNA. Last night I spent part of the late hours trying to figure out how or where to put my desktop computer. I use it a LOT and need internet access. In my home, I have an ethernet cable. At her house, the router is in the main living room and getting a cable from there to the family room would be nearly impossible. So then what??? or rather, where ???
All my stuff ... what would I do with it? And living in Cali, not my favorite place which is why I left in the first place. Living expenses are high. But having the old family home would be incredible. Until the rest of the family moves away. Then what???
Lawd, it's not easy to figure things out. Except one fact remains: I'm the one who has to give up her house. Makes me sad, because this was my 'forever home' in my own mind.
However, after much thought and a few days later after starting this thread, I've come to a decision on how to give us a little time on making that decision. I'm going to make more trips to see Mom, that might make things easier. Maybe she can make a better informed decision if I'm there more often to encourage her.
So with that decided, I'll be able to sleep better tonight, and work on my little home projects over the next two days off work!!
Sometimes it's all about little steps before the big leap.
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