To Cyber? or Not to Cyber?

This question came to mind recently. And mostly relates to folks who chat a lot (yep, that's me, I can usually be found on DALnet) What makes people do it? What kind of people do it? And ... do they get anything from it?

It's not uncommon for me to chat with many people in one evening. And I usually have a very good sense of the person I'm chatting with. Let's see if I can classify them. There's the HNGs , who (IMHO) are there for themselves. They're just looking for someone who might be willing to send a photo, accept one of their "naughty" photos, and talk dirty to them -- which leads to the selfish reason they are there in the first place. But,,, gotta give credit where credit is due: At least they know their mind, what they want, and go after it. (If that were a businessman, or a politician, folks would be saying he's successful, no?) Then there are the posers, the players, ones who will say anything, even *gasp* tell lies!! to get what they're after. (which eludes me, by the way). In that same mix there are others who congregate together because they have a ~strange~ fetish; or they're shy. Either one of these types is usually hard to keep a chat going, unless you have a list of questions to ask them. Even then, some of their answers tend to be monosyllabic. Which can get tiring. There are your Dom types, the bossy types. Toss in a few cross dressers, the bi parties, and you've got yourself a chat room!

So now that we know the players, back to my original question: To Cyber, or Not to Cyber? Personally, it is not something I usually choose to participate in. But that's because I ended up deciding on a few 'rules of engagement' first. It might sound crazy to want something more than just naughty words on a screen. But, why do something if you're going to be bored, and play solitaire while its going on? First, spelling counts. I don't mean typos, I mean words that ought to be spelled correctly. And txt talk doesn't cut it either. (UR pretty means nothing!) Whole sentences help a whole lot. Along with punctuation. Sorry, I know it's not an English class, but if it's tiresome to read, what's to keep me engaged in the action? I wonder how many of you would agree that it can be quite erotic, sort of like being a main character in the middle of a hot steamy romance novel? That is, if done with the right person, one who has a way with words, and can be more descriptive than "oh yeah baby". Then there's the anticipation of never knowing where the next sentence will take you.

Ohh... why did that question come up, you ask?? Well, let me say this. Sometimes you start chatting with someone, and there's a sense, an indefinable something, that just seems right. Add to it the 'rules of engagement' checklist with full marks, and ding ding ding! we have a winner! *winks* When it comes down to it, its really a personal choice. All it takes is one person who bridges the gap for you, and you tumble right on in to it. Happily :)

HUGS to everyone!