Are there any tried and true cure-alls that work for you?
I thought about it today, and seem to think there are
different cope mechanisms based on the disappointment.
Right now, I currently have two different disappointments. (Neither of them are earth shattering ... just normal stuff!) First... all my hard work at the gym hasn't paid off in the expected results (weight loss, of course). My first cure-all coping device is usually chocolate related! but... this time, it defeats the purpose, and I've not given in. Yet!! And I haven't given up going to the gym either ... I"m still plodding along. I changed a few notes to myself, and reset some goals (like 300 minutes a week of cardio--- which means I have 80 minutes to do on Friday-- 10 mins more than I normally do!)
The second is a trip I'd planned that fell thru (mostly) because of changes in my work schedule. I was really looking forward to it! So, I'm rescheduling it for May or June, depending on how things pan out in the next couple of weeks. My work schedule changed abruptly because the gal who works for me went off for some surgery. Which left me with no coverage, no one trained to do what she does. Which left me to cover her shifts, AND to train someone all at the same time. This disappointment has been harder to cope with. And I don't feel like I've found a successful way to do it, other than to keep overly busy to keep from dwelling on it. (It's Thursday night right now, and I should have been packing, anticipating, and getting excited about leaving in the morning!)
In the meantime, I've been training a nice fellow to take over. And I'm impressed with how methodical he is, and his desire to get the claims correct. He also has a knack (ok, for me, its my OCD! hahaha) of putting things into the claims box all neat and orderly. (ever noticed how some people have a knack for being able to fit shapes into a box? any Tetris fans out there??) Well, he has those skills, and for me, it fits perfectly. The only issue he and I have? I don't speak Spanish, and his English is limited. We do OK getting our messages across, but every once in a while... it gets all discombobulated! hehehehe
Disappointment is part of life... and it can shake our confidence and ability to deal with life if we don't develop effective and healthy strategies to deal with it. Keeping busy is definitely a productive way to cope with disappointments. I have moments where I let myself wallow in some of the bigger disappointments in life (we all have them, right?) but I don't let it hang around for long. I get up, get out, get moving. Take a walk, take a few pictures, change my focus, my routine, my habits.
And it helps to remember: "This too shall pass"
HUGGGS to everyone!
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