The Art of Flirting

There is nothing that lifts a person's spirits more than some friendly flirting.... an approving glance, a warm smile, an unexpected compliment ... every day in many ways, Life flirts with us. Flirting is the art of the possible; it invites, cajoles, charms and delights both the giver and the receiver.

While the real intent of flirting has gone by the wayside, buried under the heavy handed cliche` of seduction, old fashioned flirting is about making a connection. If it's obvious, its not flirting. It should leave the recipient with a bit of curiosity, a touch of intrigue, and not entirely certain that what just happened really happened.

Flirting isn't about your age, your looks, your weight; it has everything to do with your attitude and your sense of adventure. It is the oldest form of play. On the surface, it appears to require loads of confidence, but really what it takes is a sense of generosity and unself-consciousness. I'm really shy, and reaching toward another person isn't easy for me, but flirting is a way to reach out, make someone feel fabulous! Works like a charm, every time!

So, how do you start your flirting? With eye contact - raise your eyes, look other people in the eye. The eyes are the windows to the soul; let others see into yours, and look into others. You just might surprise yourself! Flirt with the man at the diner, the woman in the video store, a couple shopping together. Add a little laugh, and don't linger too long. Leave them wondering... "Was she flirting with me??"

I challenge you this week to do a little flirting -- and see what comes back!!

Flirty HUGS to everyone!