Aging parents aren't easy to care for at times. I am not nurse material, and it becomes difficult to be "the boss" to my mother. But its going to happen.
Today, I arrived at her house at 2pm and she was still in pajamas. She is struggling with pain and lack of sleep. None of my suggestions seem to agree with her.
The more pain she is in, the bigger the complaints become. I get frustrated when she doesn't tell her doctor the whole truth about her pain, and when he tells her what to do, she puts it off and wants to see how she feels before she makes a phone call. Then she has more pain and seeing a doctor takes a bit to get an appointment. Which causes her to become angry at having pain, angry at the doc and angry at me.
With the pain worse at night, I think she is sundowning. I've tried having discussions without letting in the anger, but when I broach the subject of anxiety causing pain, she says don't tell me it's all in my head. Some of it is.
It's so frustrating. I'm betting we will be calling in some kind of night nurse. It can't be me, I just can't deal with some of these things. Ugh. Stressful.
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