What makes this eldercare journey so difficult? After I left Thursday afternoon, I didn't go to her house Friday because I was waiting on some meds to be filled. Once I got here today, the list of problems begins:
1. Why did it take so long for them to text me my meds were ready?
2. The yard looks so tough, why doesnt the landscaper spray for weeds?
3. I'm surprised my meds weren't ready until now?
4. I think the chicken you bought me gives me heartburn.
5. When do I go to physical therapy again? I'm not scheduled for Monday, the 30th?
6. I couldn't find a new filter refrigerator so we probably need to order one.
We went through all of this and I've only been here less than an hour. And yes, with each question, I answered, sometimes answered again. But this is how it goes. I try to be accepting, but when sh*t rolls downhill, guess where I am?
I was reading on Reddit on the topic of caring for aging parents, and I am not alone! It doesnt make things easier, but at least I know. Its disappointing that there isn't actual conversation. But I lived in different states for 20+ years for a reason.
I ordered her filters along with 7 books to read. I'll spray the yard tomorrow morning. She has meds to last her for the next 30 days. I even bought Tums for the heartburn.
I don't mind the aspects of doing things, driving to appointments, etc, but I hate being her emotional support. Its just not who I can be for her. Probably because she is SO needy, and so resistant to my suggestions of self help.
Which always leaves me to wonder what tomorrow will hold????
Happy weekend!
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