You are my density!

"You are my density!" says the nervous teenage George in the move Back to the Future! I found it hilarious and so touching -- I could see any boy of that age flubbering with words and lines like that, all nervous over a girl. Very endearing! What he meant, of course, is "You are my destiny". According to wiki: "Destiny refers to a predetermined course of events. It may be conceived as a predetermined future, whether in general or of an individual."

None of us knows what the future holds. But how often do we imagine how we'd like our life to be? There are all kinds of things to turn to if you want to try to discern it: horoscopes, iChing, Quija boards, tarot cards, psychics, fortune tellers, gypsies, even religions. Through the years, each has had its turn in the spotlight. When it comes to horoscopes, personally I prefer to read mine a day late, just to see if what they said would be, really was ;) While we may never know what lies ahead in our destiny, I'm a firm believer in listening to our gut instinct; that if we're open to suggestions, thoughts and ideas, anything can happen!

Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain,
but simply points the way.
~Florence Scovel Shinn

I was working hard as usual today, and for some reason the word 'destiny' popped into my head, which made me dash over and start writing.... and it had me wondering why that word? Kenny Wayne Shepherd's song "I Found Love (when I found you)" was on the radio. That might have been it. Because from the start of my friendship with Mike, no matter what other opinions other friends had about the whole thing, there was something special about him; my gut instinct kicked in and said things to me from the start. And even though logic had me doubting from time to time, my intuition never changed, and I fell in love --- long before I had the nerve to tell him so. :) It feels as if I knew he was a part of my destiny, and some day (soon!) it will happen. In the meantime, he's been my teacher, my mentor and my best friend.

So when it comes to pondering your destiny, and your life's dreams.... dream big.
And remember what Anthony Robbins said:

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped."

HUGGGS to everyone!

Always have hope.

What happens when we begin to lose hope? How can we lose something that's intangible? Hope resides within each of us, but it seems to ebb and flow like the waves on a beach. We need to nurture our hope so it doesn't leave us. But how do we do that?

Somewhere I read that scientists say a human can last for forty days without food, a few days without water, eight minutes without oxygen but only a few seconds without hope. Jessie de la Cruz, a retired farm worker in South America wrote: “With us there’s a saying: La esparanza muere ultima. Hope dies last. You can’t lose hope. If you lose hope, you lose everything."

Hope is the life force that keeps us going and gives us something to live for. Hope is a crucial part of dealing with life’s problems and maintaining resilience is the face of obstacles. Even a glimmer of hope that our situation will turn around can keep us going.

In a conversation I had with my best friend yesterday, he said "for a while I thought pleasure was a possible answer; this is what I've always felt underneath it all, is that meaning is really the answer." And to me, that meaning includes hope. We have to find the meaning, the hope, in the things we do and think. Things always seem bleak when we lose our hope. When we run into constant resistance, when we are prevented from reaching our goals, we can start to feel like there is nothing to live for. If we can’t get to where we want to be and don’t feel in control of our life, what’s the point?

If your hope is a little low, I found a website at psychcentral here that had a really good suggestion: Use SMART as your guide. Make your goals: Specific ; Measurable ; Action oriented ; Realistic ; Time bound . Don't be afraid to set goals, even little ones! It's the little accomplishments in life that are like stepping stones, or a stairway, to bigger and better things.

Never lose faith in your abilities, trust the instincts you have inside, they will guide you through your journey. Always look to the future. Always believe that the best is out there for you to find. Never lose the faith you have in who you are. Because with that faith in yourself lies the essence of your hope.

Always have hope.

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I started this thread for two reasons. My BFF, who's been a friend for xxx-ty years (number left off to protect her age- hahaha), has had some things go wrong in her life, and I know how hard it is when bad things happen ---- you lose hope. And feel like you'll never get it back. But you can, and you will, but its up to each of us to rebuild it. You can do it, GF!

But I also wrote it for myself. Lately, hope seems to be slipping away from me in an area of my own life as well, and boy, when it happens it can be so difficult to deal with. It makes you wonder if you should give up that particular 'hope' , or revise it even. But the other things surrounding this particular hope are too strong to give it up. So ... I'll continue loving, and hoping :)

HUGS to everyone!