He's not into you...

I sat down to watch a movie this afternoon:  He's just not that into you....  a movie that came out in 2009.  It tries to decipher the dynamics of relationships of single adults.  It's a confusing world when you're single ... all the signals you try to interpret from the opposite sex.  Will he call when he says "I'll call you..." or "We should do this again soon."  What do they really mean?  Should a woman wait for a man to call?  Should she call?

There are some very typical scenes that don't make it any easier to figure out which is which.  Does a man really mean it when he says "good to hear from you" ?  One male character kept repeating:  "if a guy wants to date you, he will make it happen."  Really?

Why are women so intent on building up in their minds a relationship from the things they hear men say?  Are we programmed from a young age to think this way?  Or is it part of our makeup that makes us want to mate, to procreate?  Why are men so obtuse when it comes to relationships?  Is there something threatening about being in a relationship?  Maybe they think someone else who's better will come along, so they don't want to settle?


There doesn't seem to be any real point after watching this.  Women have been confusing issues since the dawn of time, and men haven't been calling women back just as long. 

One married couple -- they don't have sex lately.  He finds himself attracted to another woman, they have sex.  Deciding to try to 'jumpstart' their romance, the wife finds him at the office, and slips off her coat.  Underneath, she has on a corset and stockings.  The other part of this:  hiding in the office closet is the woman he's having an affair with.   While its a little comical, its also very sad.  And of course the 'other woman' calls him a pig and storms out. 

Relationships aren't easy. 
Why do we make it so difficult?
Can't we be honest and say what we think, what we want,
and then be happy with the one we love?

If you're searching for answers, this isn't the movie to watch. 
If you're searching for comedy, not this either.
If you're single -- this could be mildly depressing!!

There are proverbial happy endings... but beware: every relationship cliche is included in this movie!