Working On it

This is one of my fav authors, I enjoy her down to earth advice!

And this is one of those wisdoms that I need to apply to my own life. 

Sometimes there are people who come into our lives, and aren't meant to be the ones who will stay in our lives.  It isn't easy recognizing those moments.  If you're like me, you tend to cling to the way things are.  Which has a ripple effect:  if you don't release old things, there is no room for new things in your life.

I think its a feng shui principle that says in order to make room for someone to come into your life, clean out a dresser drawer, empty part of your closet.  Ok, maybe that's a simplistic point of view, but it makes sense.  We don't get new things in our life until we shed the old, make room for change, switch gears every now and then. 

That being said, how does one know when its time for change?  Is it gradual? Or do you do it all at once, like pulling off a band-aid?  Crossroads are never easy, and without being specific, I'm also trying to be transparent here in my writings.  There are a few topics I've avoided here, not wanting to get overly personal, because one is never sure who's reading the blog.  and I'm at the point where I finally don't believe someone reads this.  But on the other hand, what good is an honest blog if you can't be totally honest?  I've had trouble with that in the past.  Its from growing up with a mom who said "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything."

I haven't been in any kind of real relationship since I moved to AZ, and that's been five years now.  Because I allowed myself to pin my hopes and dreams in one place.  And while some would say the fault isn't entirely mine, because I was misled, I am owning my own choice.  I allowed, I chose to keep dreaming and hoping.  And now its my choice to make a change.

Like the author says, You have to make a conscious choice. 
To me, that means it will take an effort to let go, to make a change. 
Until the old is gone, there's no room for new. 

I'm working on it.