Relationships aren't easy

Here I am, over 50 and single.  And I've been thinking lately about men, relationships and what, if anything, I'm looking for.  And that's not easy!  You can't define a person, put them in a box, and expect them to be that person always.  But you should always be aware of the traits that are necessary in another person for you (such as honesty) and the ones that are deal breakers (like smoking).   And once you know a few of them, don't waste time on those who don't fit within your basics -- because you can't change a person!

Why all the thoughts?  Well, a lot of reasons.  First, my son is convinced he's in love and moving out of my house and in with a woman.  And being a mom, we always worry about our kids and want them to be happy.   I'm not confident this will be a good thing, but it will be a life lesson for him either way.  We were out grocery shopping, and doing some price comparisons (because living on your own means shopping wisely with your limited money!) and he commented about how hard it is.  And he just doesn't seem happy or excited about the prospect of moving.  Me, when I got it in my head to move, was always packing early, being prepared, but he's not doing any of that.  hehehe We shall see.


Then when I talked with Mom on Thursday, the news she gave me was my sister, who's a month away from her 25th wedding anniv is separated from her hubby and they're gonna do the big "D".  Always a hard thing after so many years, but as I told mom, everyone deserves to be happy.

The last reason has to do with someone who asked me if they had a chance at having a real date with them.  The problem is he's as young as my kids.  And so far, finding topics of common interest hasn't been easy.  I know relationships take work, but conversation shouldn't always be an effort.  So I'm supposing since companionship and convos are two of my 'key elements' I guess I'd have to say no.  

I'm chuckling, because on the dating front, when my daughter was here, we were joking about getting married and such and she was adamant ... "No waaay are you ever getting married again, Mom!"  I was shocked that she was emphatic about it, but had to agree with her -- I don't see myself as getting married again.  (We all know that can change if the right person comes into our life!) 

Here's a thought I found about relationships, with some humor :

“Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?", here's an update for you. Nowadays 80%of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!”   --Andy Rooney