I was doing some reading today (I'm always reading something!!) and I saw this phrase: "Sex for girls is a defining moment. Sex for guys is just sex."
I wonder if someone had said that to me at 15, would it have changed my actions, my future?? Would I have believed it?
My first time was with a high school boyfriend. I was not prepared emotionally for this "event". And maybe not mentally either. But there is no mistaking the wants, desires, that run rampant from surging hormones.
It was the 70s and I was a teen growing up in that decade of free love. Maybe that caused some distortions or conflicting opinions. Hard to say no when society was all about the yes.
"No one could ever know how much it tore a woman apart, to trust her heart and be completely wrong."
That's what I found to be true, and recognized much later. Because of that realization, things changed and now I require a strong emotional bond for it. (Demisexual is the title given to this.)
No matter how it happened, nothing replaces the memory of that first time.
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