Approval

So we're on the phone,

and there's an abrupt "I gotta go..."  *click*

Oh sure, later there's an apology phone call.

Why do some (if not most) women put up with that kind of thing?

Why do we allow it, as if we need these kind of men in our lives?

Why are we seemingly desperate for a man's approval?

Some would argue that it has to do with our upbringing, or unresolved 'dad issues'.

Sorry.  I don't have any real answers.  But I do it too.  I constantly seek a man's approval.  And what for??  Yes.  He enjoys my company.  Or does he?  Maybe I'm a "filler" for those empty hours between dinner and bedtime.  Definitely not for some sort of 'casual sex fling' being there's no effort to meet, nor any of 'those' late night *ahem* phone calls. 

I found this on Google:  "The approval you really need to find is from yourself and this can only begin once you stop searching for approval in others and take the time to heal yourself."  Pleasing others is like sex: When we do it because we really want to, it's a wonderfully life-affirming way to strengthen a relationship, but when it's motivated by obligation, powerlessness, or calculated advantage, it's the very definition of degrading.

When I left my ex husband, it took me a while to realize what, and how much, of this kind of behavior I allowed, and how much self respect I lost because of it.  It took a nice man with good intentions to make me see that I don't have to be that way.  He thought I needed a reminder, a talisman as it were, that I would know on a daily basis that I am a Goddess.  That's how I came to wear a thumb ring.   It's visible, I feel lost without it. And knowing its there helps me remember ...... And yet I allowed that phone call apology.  Shame on me!  Still have more growing to do.

Always remember the Goddess that you are! 

The only approval you need to seek is your own!

Don't take being treated bad or disrespectful, or the excuses that come later.