So today was a heck of a day! I've been trying to get at least one thing on the house accomplished every week, because we all know that houses need maintenance. Today's chore: to replace the on/off valve in the master bath shower. Getting things done is mot an easy thing to do with all that's going on.
Let me recap for you: Brian's saga goes along. On Tuesday, Leigha dropped by - said she was in the neighborhood - she had her daughter and her husband with her. To meet Brian. um, what? why? hahaha too weird, too looney toons! Today, she sent a text about having to go to the ER (not sure why) and Brian answered "glad you're ok". She sent back info about the babe's heartbeat being good and strong. Brian said "cool". And she goes off her rocker, mad because his "cool" sounded like he didn't care. drama drama drama.
Dad's colonoscopy turned up colon cancer, the resection didn't happen because they found more cancer in his abdomen and on his liver. They've done another CT scan and have now found it on his lungs. Brave man that he is, he's gonna give chemo a try, and gets his 'port' put in on Friday.
On Thursday, my mom fell down on her morning walk, and broke her wrist. She had her cell phone, thankfully, and Dad picked her up, took her home. She didn't go for xrays until much later. Yes, its broken, and she's in a large hard cast -- its sparkly purple! *grins* She goes back to the doctor to check progress, making sure they don't need to do surgery (heaven help us, our family doesn't need any more!). She will wear a cast for 8 weeks total - if not more.
When I spoke to my sister Thursday, and again today, she sounds a little stressed, so I asked if I should come up and she said yes! So in two weeks I'm dashing up to visit family, and hopefully get some family meeting time accomplished. Its like there's a huge pink elephant in the room and no one wants to say the wrong thing -so they avoid talking about it at all, it seems. But now is the time to make the decisions, to make sure things are in order, to put minds at ease so Dad can be cared for in the way he wants.
In research on the web, there are a lot of good ideas about what will happen, what needs to happen, and how to make your wishes known. We all have our own ideas about things -- but how often do we talk about them? My aunt and I talk about it often, she's much like me, a realist who knows that death is inevitable for all of us. It's the circle of life. We need to make sure that our wishes are known, so they can be carried out. And if its planned in advance, no one is left feeling guilty about knowing if they did the right thing.
To me, it should be a celebration of life, all the way to the end.
And making sure there are no regrets left sitting out in the open.
Make things right with your loved ones.
Tell them all how much you love them.
And smile.
Always smile.
Even when it hurts.
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