Its Sunny!

It's a beautiful sunny morning here in the Valley of the Sun, and that seems redundant to say!  Its nearly always sunny here, but lately, we've had a chill in the air, so the sun hasn't seemed so bright as it is this morning.  And I'm tickled pink!  Or maybe its lavender?  hehehe As soon as the sunlight hit the patio, I was sitting in my chair, in my lavender jammies, reading a book and sipping a diet coke.  Sadie, of course, was in th heaven as she loves being outdoors --- when her people are with her!  :)

By the way, the smile this sun is wearing matches my own!!!

Today, my son takes the bus south to spend the holidays with his dad and his sister.  It's not something he looks forward to, and that's kind of sad.  His sister always laments "You need to spend time with your family".  And I agree. He does.  However.  Its not time well spent if they're busy with their own lives and he's just "along for the ride" while he's there.  No one can replace the time they missed, or the regrets one has, at not doing something with our families when the opportunity arises.  I'm afraid that's one regret his dad will have at some point in his life.  While they're only two hours apart, his dad is a little to busy, or uninterested, in coming up and doing something with his son -- take him out to lunch, shop, do guy things.  But naw, that doesn't happen.  We've lived here almost five years.  I can count the number of times he's made an effort to come up here on less than 5 fingers. 

In order for my son to spend time with his dad on holidays, he takes a Greyhound bus down there.  Takes the same as driving time-- 2 hours.  And no one has to do the driving.  But does his dad offer to buy him a ticket??? Nope!  Who pays?  Me.  Because I think its important for him to see his dad.  Sadly, its not reciprocated. 

How does my son feel about going to see his dad?  While he recognizes that its important and something he needs to do, well, how would you feel about it?  In his defense, I don't blame him for resisting these visits -- who wants to visit someone who doesn't reciprocate????  And he's his DAD.  How sad I feel for my ex, who will never know what a great kid he has, because he doesn't take the time.  Yes, he has a few special needs, but that's part of what makes him unique, gives him quite a different perspective on life -- if you take the time to get to know him.  Quite the shame, "dad".

if you're reading this, I can't stress enough that you should be making an effort when it comes to your kids - grown or not, they need you, will always needs you.  Be there for them.

After I drop my son off, my question has been: What now?  What will I do with my day?  The sky is the limit, I can do anything I want -- but what?  Its such a nice day, supposed to be the nicest day between last week and this coming week, I may just spend it in my backyard.  With a book.  In the sunshine.  (I'm in the middle of a great murder mystery story - its been hard to put down all morning!).  Maybe a campfire tonight would be awesome.  A glass of wine or two.  Who knows what else from there *eyebrow waggles*  hehehe

PS:  To MrK - have fun with Zeus today!!!  :)