Any Real Men?

Are there real men out there?  Men that women want? and desire?  Not in the "he's so good looking I want to jump his bones" kind of desire.  I'm talking about the kind where you're his best friend, and he is yours.  Someone who's always there for you; and you're there, too.

Someone on POF asked me the other day:  What are you looking for in a man?  And I tell ya, that gets harder and harder to answer as I get older.  But I tried to answer with as much honesty as I could:

I value honesty, integrity and respect. But sometimes just those things sound boring. A sense of humor, someone I can relate to, and who relates to me, someone to share things with. But I'll be honest and say that its been so long, maybe what I'm looking for is the impossible, and I can accept that too. 8 yrs ago, I restarted my life and finally have a house of my own, can stand on my own two feet proudly. And maybe at my age, that's enough. I know deep down its not, that having someone to share life with is the greatest treasure. This might not be enough of an answer, but its not always easy putting words to something that can be complicated in answers, and so simple when there's the right chemistry between two people.

When James first wrote about the things he likes to do, the kind of man he is, my first thought was:  He's too good to be true!  Or maybe he really isn't -- and its worth taking a shot.

So why do I hesitate?
Is it because I haven't had 'that' kind of relationship before?
Or that the ones I have had, have always disappointed me??

It shouldn't be this hard.  But there are so many things that make life easier nowadays that maybe most people are bored, don't know what to do, so they live life through obtaining bedpost notches.

That's not for me.
I'd rather be alone.