(Borrowed this from here ) How ready are you to date? A lot of people think being ‘ready’ means ready to get attention, have companionship, get sex, an ego stroke – ready to jump back in the saddle. However being ready to date, which prepares you for being ready for a relationship is actually about being mentally and emotionally ready. In this quiz, find out your dating readiness. The more you agree with, the more ready you are.
1. I’m over my ex and am no longer emotionally invested in them.
2. No seriously Natalie, I’m not holding out a secret hope that we’ll get back together. Oh and I don’t have any other exes lurking around.
3. I believe that a loving, healthy relationship with mutual love, care, trust and respect is out there for me.
4. There are still a lot of good people to date.
5. I trust myself and I’m OK with acting in my own best interests even if it may hurt a little.
6. I am aware of my boundaries and red flag behaviour and if I were to encounter someone that overstepped my boundaries and/or exhibited red flag behaviour, I would know what to do.
7. I know that sex and love are not the same thing.
8. I have a reasonable level of trust and am not controlled by my fears. In fact, I am actively working on addressing any issues that have previously affected me in relationships.
9. I can mentally and emotionally cope with someone not reciprocating my interest or dates not working out.
Yeah, I'm not ready. I'm not over, and I still have strong emotions. Secret hope that someday will happen? Probably a little of that, too. *sigh*
When I tossed the iChing coins tonight, I got this:
49. Change
Line 1:
Fastened using the leather of a yellow ox.
Things are too fixed to change them.That last line is probably the most telling line of all.
When I consulted a different site for hexagram 49, I got: Love: Your relationship may be in need of a radical change, but first you should plan for all eventualities.
So why can't I let go?
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