Thursday, July 5, 2012

Questions without answers

All day long as I'm working, questions would flit through my mind.  Doubts would assail my senses when I wasn't prepared for them.  And my mp3 player was cranking out the tunes... which was fine until a certain song or two comes on... and then it plunged me even deeper for a moment.  As you can guess I was johnny-on-the-spot changing the tune so I wouldn't get sucked down into that black hole.  It was touch and go a few times today, and I'm determined not to let that happen.  Although at some point, I know that it will.  It's part of the process.

The hardest part is finding my place amidst all this.  I'm not out anything  tangible -- I didn't lose money, I didn't lose my virginity, and I didn't lose my sanity ... well, ok, maybe a little bit there *giggle*.  Because, in fact, if I look closely at the whole situation, I must have known something  in my subconscious.  Because other men I have spoken with, speak to, have a different mindset if they're "available".   Let's face it:  men who aren't truly available are safe in their own way.

It's 330am, and I'm wide awake.  The wee hours of the morning are the darkest, and it's when I have my darkest thoughts.  It's when I feel the pain most intensely, the kind of pain where your heart's been ripped out and stomped all over; or where you've been kicked in the stomach over and over again.  I can move through tasks, the routine of daily life, and it simmers in the background.  But as evening wears on and the day winds down, it begins to show itself.  I stuff it back into place and crawl into bed and turn on a movie, happy for the distraction and fall into a troubled sleep.  Only to wake up over and over again until .....  well, until I grab my notebook and begin to write.

I'll be frank with you, readers, and admit that yes, I am still chatting with this man.  And some of you will ask WHY???  in various forms.   I'll explore my reasons for that another time; suffice it to say that for now, its very difficult to end a friendship that's gone on for this long.  Wow, I was going somewhere with this ...  *pondering the whole thing*  Ok, maybe I'm winding down enough to fall back asleep for an hour before I have to get up for work.

Why did I? Why do I? allow being treated this way?
Am I the only one?  Or are there others.....?
ok, that's not a reasonable question,
I know there are others,
but I'll never know the truth ....

For those of you who celebrated the 4th of July, I hope it was a good one!  I have a three day weekend coming up ... which could be good.... as long as I stay out of the abyss.  Happy Friday to me!

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